How to start healing after a messy break-up
A messy break-up, especially one you didn’t initiate, can be painful. But, if you follow these eight tips, you might be able to start the healing process sooner:
- Allow yourself to mourn the death of the relationship and the loss of your friend
- Stop fighting with your ex… it just prolongs your anger and frustration
- Remove your ex, and reminders of your ex, from your life as much as you can
- Rely on your friends and family for support and companionship when you are feeling lonely, sad, angry or vulnerable
- Treat yourself in ways that make you really happy… and re-discover old things you used to love… and find new things to love
- Try to keep negative thoughts about your future in perspective – after all, you are smart and resourceful and as a result you WILL survive and then thrive
- Remember you had a lot of good times with your ex… so don’t think of the relationship as a bad mistake, but rather it just wasn’t meant to last forever
- Ask yourself if the break-up could be a catalyst to make those significant changes to your life you’ve long been thinking about making