9 signs this person is ‘the one’ for you

By Liz Paul, Psychotherapist & Counsellor

The dating scene is hard out there.  Unless you are very lucky, you have to meet a lot of new people before you meet ‘the one’.  It’s like the old adage about having to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince (or princess).

All that takes a lot of time and effort.

But you might be able to shortcut the process if you have a template which helps you reveal if a person could be the right partner for you.

And here are 9 signs I believe will help you determine if a relationship is destined for a long term future:

  1. Your partner does not possess the qualities that really frustrated you with previous partners
  2. They calm you rather than trigger negative emotions (like anxiety and worry)
  3. You find yourself thinking about a rosy future with them, rather than worrying about how you will deal with their issues (like anger management or drug use)
  4. You share the same views on important issues like marriage, children, finances, work/life balance, social justice, morals and values, politics etc
  5. You find it easy to work out a compromise when you aren’t in agreement, rather than one of you having to always fully concede
  6. You can both tolerate each other’s idiosyncrasies and don’t feel the need to ‘change’ the other
  7. You can’t wait to see each other, even if you have only been apart for hours
  8. Their friends are good people (which indicates your partner is also probably a good person)
  9. They have good relationships with their family, and if they don’t they have endeavoured to repair the rift

What are the issues for which most people seek assistance?

  • Relationship break-ups
  • Constantly fighting with your partner
  • Loss of intimacy with your partner
  • Communication problems with your partner or child
  • Difficulty parenting toddlers or teens
  • Pre-marriage counselling
  • A child misbehaving
  • Eating disorders
  • Anxiety
  • Family counselling
  • Wanting to separate from their partner amicably
  • Helping the children cope after a relationship break-up
  • Trouble staying in relationships
  • HSC stress for students and their families
  • Relationship commitment issues
  • Problems at work
  • Couple counselling
  • Difficulties with step-children
  • Sexual difficulties
  • Problems with in-laws
  • Substance addiction
  • Facing major life changes
  • Making new life choices
  • Relationship counselling